Monday, June 8, 2020

so you think that you're a failure

So you think that you're a failure, do you? 
Well, you probably are. What's wrong with that? 

In the first place, if you've any sense at all 
you must have learned by now that we pay 
just as dearly for our triumphs as we do for our defeats.

 Go ahead and fail. 
But fail with wit, fail with grace, fail with style.
 A mediocre failure is as insufferable as a mediocre success.

 Embrace failure! Seek it out. Learn to love it. 
That may be the only way any of us will ever be free.

~ Tom Robbins
from Even Cowgirls get the Blues



jacquin said...

In one sense, yes - embrace failure, because it means you're trying, you're learning. You have to keep folding your hands and bowing your head and listening and giving up the pretence of competence.
The caveat is: failure often - usually? - impacts others in our lives. This sting of failure is even harder to bear, without falling into self-recrimination and depression.

Dean Keller said...

Hi jacquin,
Yes, very true, and for me, forgiveness becomes so important. Forgiveness of others whom we may feel have wronged us and often even more difficult is forgiving oneself. As you noted, often times our most
harsh judgements fall upon ourselves. Finding my way to cast the gentle eye of forgiveness, love and self-compassion on myself is the only way I've found to avoid so much of the pain that the sense of separateness brings with it.