patterns

At the age of twenty-nine Gautama slipped away from his palace 
in the middle of the night, leaving behind his family and possessions. 
He traveled as a homeless vagabond throughout northern India, searching
 for a way out of suffering.


 He visited ashrams and sat at the feet of gurus
 but nothing liberated him entirely - some dissatisfaction always remained. 

He did not despair. He resolved to investigate suffering on his own
 until he found a method for complete liberation. He spent six years
 meditating on the essence, causes and cures for human anguish.


 In the end he came to the realization that suffering is not caused
 by ill fortune, by social injustice, or by divine whims. 
Rather, suffering is caused by the behavior patterns
 of one's own mind.

 

 Gautama's insight was that no matter what the mind experiences, 
it usually reacts with craving, and craving always
 involves dissatisfaction. When the mind experiences something
 distasteful it craves to be rid of the irritation.


 When the mind experiences something pleasant,
 it craves that the pleasure will remain and will intensify.
 Therefore, the mind is always 
dissatisfied and restless. 

This is very clear when we experience unpleasant things,
 such as pain. As long as the pain continues, we are dissatisfied 
and do all we can to avoid it. Yet even when we experience pleasant
 things we are never content. We either fear that the pleasure
 might disappear, or we hope that it will intensify. 

People dream for years about finding love but are rarely satisfied 
when they find it. Some become anxious that their partner will leave; 
others feel that they have settled cheaply, and could have found 
someone better. And we all know people who manage to do both.

  ~ Yuval Noah Harari

the wounded gift

One of the great powers of love is balance;
 it helps us move toward transfiguration.  

When two people come together, an ancient circle closes between them. 
They also come to each other not with empty hands,
 but with hands full of gifts for each other. 
Often these are wounded gifts; 

this awakens the dimension of healing within love. 
When you really love someone,
you shine the light of your soul on the beloved.  

We know from nature that sunlight brings everything to growth. 
 It you look at flowers early on a spring morning,
they are all closed.  

When the light of the sun catches them,
they trustingly open out and give themselves to the new light.

~ John O'Donohue

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what keeps us alive

What keeps us alive, what allows us to endure?

I think it is the hope of loving,

or being loved.

I heard a fable once about the sun going on a journey 

to find its source, and how the moon wept

without her lover's 

warm gaze.

We weep when light does not reach our hearts, We wither

like fields if someone close

does not rain their

kindness

upon 

us.

~  Meister Eckhart

creating enmity

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Surely that thing which you fight you become. If I am angry 
and you meet me with anger what is the result? 
More anger. You have become that which I am.
 If I am evil and you fight me with evil means then you also become evil,
 however righteous you may feel. If I am brutal and you use brutal methods 
to overcome me, then you become brutal like me. 

And this we have done for thousands of years. 
Surely there is a different approach than to meet hate by hate.
 If I use violent methods to quell anger in myself then
 I am using wrong means for a right end, 
and thereby the right end ceases to be. In this there is no understanding;
 there is no transcending anger. Anger is to be studied tolerantly
 and understood; it is not to be overcome through violent means.
 Anger may be the result of many causes and without comprehending
 them there is no escape from anger.

We have created the enemy, the bandit, and becoming ourselves the enemy
 in no way brings about an end to enmity. We have to understand the cause
 of enmity and cease to feed it by our thought, feeling, and action. 

This is an arduous task demanding constant self-awareness and intelligent pliability, 
for what we are the society, the state is. The enemy and the friend 
are the outcome of our thought and action. We are responsible for creating enmity 
and so it is more important to be aware of our own thought and action
 than to be concerned with the foe and the friend, for right thinking 
puts an end to division. Love transcends the friend and the enemy.

~ J. Krishnamurti

from The Book of Life

art by Picasso